Tag: Happiness


Today is one of those days I just wish I had more time to do everything that is on my “to do list. I tried to squeeze too many errands in between nap times for my twins babies and ended up with 2 screaming babies in my car. Oh boy. And now I am feeling frustrated at myself for causing baby tears and frustrated that my chores and errands are not finished! While you may not have twin babies, I am sure you have felt your life implode perhaps for other reasons.

So BALANCE…how do we get it? How do we accomplish our goals while maintaining some sort of inner peace?

A good friend once introduced me to the concept of checking in with my values when making goals, structuring my schedule, and just living everyday life. What are your top five values in life? Do your actions and activities in your life support these values or are your activities and actions incongruent with your values?

I would challenge all of us to exercise our right to have direction in our lives and establish those top values. If fitness, health and weight loss is important to you, then ultimately you must make time for it or you will feel uneasy, frustrated and perhaps even depressed about it. If you also value feeling rested and refreshed, then perhaps 8 hours of sleep is a priority for you as well. So how do you make time for both??

It takes 21 days to establish a new habit. My challenge for the month of May is to change a current actions in your life to uphold and support your top 2 goals and values. Give it 21 days…a very consistent 21 days consecutively. Maybe the alarm is set one hour earlier to start the day with exercise, then at the end of the day, you need not worry about it, it is done and you can hit the hay knowing you have already exercised AND getting to bed early enough for that all important sleep.

How does TIMING play into all of this? Some goals and priorities are present at specific times in our lives. For me at this time in my life, mothering is a top value. I desire to be the kind of Mother who is available and present in heart, mind and body. I want to be the one who cooks them breakfast, lunch and dinner…reads to them…takes them to their activities…puts them to bed each night. Does it make sense then for me to fill my schedule with so many other commitments that I am not able to be available to my babies and 5 year old? No. However, perhaps after my children all enter school, I will have the spare time to dive into other life goals I would like to pursue.

What goals in your life deserve your attention right now?? What opportunities will pass you by if you don’t do it presently?

May Challenge: 21 days for your 2 top goals!


Source by Cathy Herd


Just what is emotional health? How can I have good emotional health?

1. Take care of yourself.

Believe it or not taking care of your body also helps take care of your mental health. Watch your diet! Eating too much of one food, having too much caffeine or having too little protein can have a negative influence on your emotional health. Exercising your body also gives you a stronger, confident sense of self. The simple act of walking has been proven to be connected to your mental health. Get up and move!

Don’t forget to sleep! Sleep is an integral part of mental health and may even be more important that what you eat. Not getting enough sleep can actually change your personality, so work on saving that time. Take 8 hours just for your sleep so you can approach the day with better emotional/mental health.

2. Develop good relationships with friends and family.

Feeling alone is worse than being alone when you know there are people out there who love you. Part of not feeling alone is taking it upon yourself to create and maintain good relationships with others. This is just one way in which you maintain a support system.

Having a support system is like having a wall with people standing on either side to keep it standing. Sometimes we want to be that to others, but we need to be able to allow others to be our support as well.

3. Follow the Doctor’s orders!

It may be that you take some medication. If you take medication, don’t stop taking it without asking the doctor for permission. Sometimes medicine has two purposes. Some Epilepsy medications may also act as a mood stabilizer, so going off of it may impair your mental and physical health.

Also, if you do not take the medicine you need, your health may become worse. If you are taking medicine to maintain your mental health, remember that it works because you are feeling OK and it is not that you don’t need the medicine.

4. Set Goals

When you look towards the future, what do you see yourself doing in the near one year down the road. How about 5 years, 10 years? Setting a goal gives you something to work towards, it allows you to see what can be if you want it bad enough!

5. Do something for others! Do something for you!

Many times you will hear, you need to take 5 minutes and do something just for you. Try doing for others instead. Unselfish acts of caring and generosity can provide you with an emotional charge that will “kick start” you through the week.

If you seem to be spending a lot of time doing for others and still have a high stress level, try doing something for just you. If doing something for you means you need to take a nap, have some alone time, take a vacation, these actions for you are important. They are opportunities to recharge your batteries and prepare for the next adventure in life.


Source by Gabriel J. Adams

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